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The Shaytan

The Shaytan

The Shaytan comes to you like a hustler in the street,
He bombards you with what you normally wouldn't notice, with types of things enticing you like a child being bribed with some sweets;
It's like you're walking down the street one day and the next thing you know you're being offered some kind of treat,
The only problem is that he only wants you to eventually be destroyed by what he is offering, so consider this gift as though he's telling you that it's gluten-free, but it has gmo-type wheat.

He wants you destroyed, to be precise, my brother,
He'll distract you from worshipping Allaah, the true Lord, Who is above any other;
He wishes you to be an ungrateful slave, even if you commit sins like tattooing your body or be a fornicator,
He will show you to cause the destruction of marriages and friendships, like being an adulterer or backbiter.

Nothing of his call is true, it should not be listened to at all,
The best hope you have is in the Qur'aan and in adhering to the muaddin's call;
Follow the true ahaadeeth that have been brought to us with the proper understanding and not interpret it according to our desires, most of all,
Because it benefits us most when we put those who know better first, after all.

If you see him coming at you to share partners with Allaah, don't answer,
It's this type of thing that'll cause you to end up in the Hell Fire;
He may then come with overdoing the permissible, letting you lose out in what may be better,
Think about innovation for a bit, because if you are on a way which is wrong but you think is right, you may never repent from your incorrect ways since you think your way is proper.

This call is the way of those who were actually there amongst the revelation coming down to our blessed prophet,
These people knew Islaam best, and were tested the hardest from the onset;
All will enter the Hell Fire except those who follow the prophet who was Al Islaam's closest adherent,
And the Salafus-Saalih, from the last of them to the ones who were there from Al Islaam's advent.

You can never find peace except that you end up in the end with your Lord being pleased,
With the way you lived your life so He eventually granted you Paradise which are only for those who truly believed;
None but those He knows truly deserve it will be made to have this action completed and achieved,
So contemplate, dear human, all are called to take account of the life that you are living, do not be of those who were deceived!

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

The Mahr

The Mahr

A quote once said, when nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap,

Indeed we, as Muslims, will sow that which we reap;

A prophetic Hadith speaks about making the marriage being something of ease that both parties can reach,

But brothers put dollar signs in their daughters’ eyes, so now the muslimah has turned into a parasite, a leech. 
Wow, have you heard the price for the dowry in some Muslim lands, yet alone the price of the Bayt?

Zina is slowly increasing, putting the Muslims in a lowly state;

The family doesn’t care, so the numbers continue to increase steadily, yet the population is poor looking at their own fate,

After spending all of that money to just get the girl, what can he afford to clothe their backs or what will go on a plate?
How does one propose he’ll pay for all of this, you ask, as we look at the facts?

Definitely another major sin is delved into, riba coming in at the head of the pack;

We’ll just take a loan out, as we get the apartment and furnish it, removing all light from our hearts till they turn black,

Only because following the sunnah to many today just seems plain whack?
I wish a sister would tell one of my sons to pay thousands of dollars to get her, then more thousands for the reception, so that he can maintain her for the rest of his life,

So he’s actually paying all this money, so that he can claim the title of her being his wife?

How stupid this sounds, ponder it for a moment as you section off the young thoughts from the ones that look ripe,

For inasmuch as you would want the glitter and glamour of the marriage date for the people, 

it’s only the husband and wife that would end up in sadness when they return to their Lord or pure delight.  
How do you assess that your body is worth hundreds if not thousands of dollars just to get a mate?

When we spend less time on the actual value of these men and women of late?

When the reality should be looked at in the life we are about to have with this person which may seal our fate?

But we want the big wedding, the big house, our Jannah on this earth at all cost, as we seal our fate. 
What about those who can’t afford the extravagant price?

But they are men of good character and men who’s religion are better than nice?

Or those women for that matter who have these exorbitant price, with no one to pay it, but their hormones and interest are enticed?

The call of zina seem more and more appealing, as the deen takes a back seat to ones desires, ones vice.  
So for those of us who intend on raising the price excessively for our daughters or womenfolk,

Know that the intent is for the coming of two Muslims for marriage, and not to brag to neighbors and gloat;

Some of us live in a society that the price that’s being quoted doesn’t make sense, so remember the beginning quote,

That when nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap, so ponder upon what I wrote.   
It’s been said that the higher the price, the harder it will be for her to get a khul’ah,

But if it’s a deterrent for her not the leave the marriage, then more attention should be shown to your manhaj and aqeedah;

Definitely we know that while women wait for the right man to come by, the men are also looking for the right women to come along so each can have their own zawjah,

But which is more important, the act of finally getting married, or finding the right one who helps you get to Jannah?
Who chooses the price of a woman that in some countries some give it up for cheap?

Some give it up for some beer, or flowers or even rice on a plate alongside some meat;

But the fact of the matter is that men tend to be taken aback when all the Wali wants is the Qur’aan recited and implemented as the road to Jannah is what he actively seek,

Than the woman who quotes thousands to later end up being a woman who becomes a headache so all you want to do is take a Tylenol then lay down and sleep.  

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

The Reality

The Reality
Excuse me for being frustrated that you don’t want to enter into Polygyny,

The fault lies with me, for those of us who have an intellect that works stealthily;

Not everyone is built for this type of lifestyle of a family,

Because very few of us even have their Iman challenged, which is plain reality. 
Clearly, we see the whole world watch the Olympics, where only a few dare to compete,

Many of us want to go try out, but our brains and bodies are not aligned for this feat;

A whole stadium gets packed where players do their thing, as we watch from our seats,

Everyone is built for their specialty, like lions at the point when its jaws are around a kill, it’s done with preciseness and it’s neat. 
I say this to say, that the reality of the affair is that many women are not even built for this life,

So some men should only stay with his one wife;

Imagine the ones who come in and try to destroy what you’ve built like a cold butter and a hot knife,

Don’t always feel like it’s the man who’s unjust or that he’s incompetent or less than nice.  
A quote said it best, that everyone wants to be a beast, until it’s time to do what real beats do,

Many of us want to emulate Prophet Muhammad, salallaahu alayhi wa sallam, but on our best days in our marriages, we couldn’t even fill his shoes;

I’m saying this for clarity, not to get anyone confused,

That this institution is for those who want to know, as well as implement the smallest to the biggest of its rules.  
A true example of how to implement Islaam is to look at the life of our beloved Prophet,

But we choose to look at the Islaam being propagated today by those who only know Islaam from the phones in their pockets;

Failed marriages by brothers who were only looking to claim the title of a man with more than one wife, but can’t hang when things get drastic,

No wonder sisters get amnesia, schizophrenia or disoriented when someone brings up this topic. 
A bad example shown is just that in my book,

But there are many positive examples for those that want to go have a look;

Islaam is shown in a way that is opposite to what we know to be true, be careful what is seen on tv or in books with what was put,

Truth is not known by men, but men are known by the truth, so not only should we be weary of what’s put in the pot, but also look at the cook. 
Look at these women who are involved in polygyny and they’re handling it,

No, it’s not easy, not a day in the park to grab up a chair to have a sit;

It’s a thing to have your sleeves rolled up all the way to your armpits,

Some days are smooth and clear, while others are filled with static. 
This is for none but the patient and righteous and successful,

Only Allaah knows who were actually mindful;

If His limits were adhered to or the perpetrators were sinful ,

But the one who He said is the best of example to follow, had wives who were none other than dutiful. 

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

Is speaking about family backbiting?

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 
⏩ *Does Speaking In Regards To The Family Or Relatives Enter Into Backbiting – Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Hizaam*
Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Hizaam was asked:
Question:
“One of the members of the family, his actions are evil. Thus, if the rest of the family speak in regards to their brothers, is that considered backbiting? It may be the nephew or cousin or similar to that.”
Answer :
“If they speak amongst themselves to correct the situation or to aid each other upon advising and getting rid of this evil, then it doesn’t enter into back biting if Allah wills.
But if there is no benefit in it, rather the speech is without any legislative intent, then it enters into backbiting the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said:
‎أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْغِيبَةُ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ قَالُوا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏”‏ ذِكْرُكَ أَخَاكَ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ
Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like.
[Saheeh Muslim]
As for the one that intends to advise or correct, then he doesn’t enter into that.
Allahul Mustaa’an”
End quote.
Translated by
Majid Jawed Al-Afghanee
Abu Layl
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Quran and Sunnah upon the understanding of the salaf