Category Archives: Women

The Shaytan

The Shaytan

The Shaytan comes to you like a hustler in the street,
He bombards you with what you normally wouldn't notice, with types of things enticing you like a child being bribed with some sweets;
It's like you're walking down the street one day and the next thing you know you're being offered some kind of treat,
The only problem is that he only wants you to eventually be destroyed by what he is offering, so consider this gift as though he's telling you that it's gluten-free, but it has gmo-type wheat.

He wants you destroyed, to be precise, my brother,
He'll distract you from worshipping Allaah, the true Lord, Who is above any other;
He wishes you to be an ungrateful slave, even if you commit sins like tattooing your body or be a fornicator,
He will show you to cause the destruction of marriages and friendships, like being an adulterer or backbiter.

Nothing of his call is true, it should not be listened to at all,
The best hope you have is in the Qur'aan and in adhering to the muaddin's call;
Follow the true ahaadeeth that have been brought to us with the proper understanding and not interpret it according to our desires, most of all,
Because it benefits us most when we put those who know better first, after all.

If you see him coming at you to share partners with Allaah, don't answer,
It's this type of thing that'll cause you to end up in the Hell Fire;
He may then come with overdoing the permissible, letting you lose out in what may be better,
Think about innovation for a bit, because if you are on a way which is wrong but you think is right, you may never repent from your incorrect ways since you think your way is proper.

This call is the way of those who were actually there amongst the revelation coming down to our blessed prophet,
These people knew Islaam best, and were tested the hardest from the onset;
All will enter the Hell Fire except those who follow the prophet who was Al Islaam's closest adherent,
And the Salafus-Saalih, from the last of them to the ones who were there from Al Islaam's advent.

You can never find peace except that you end up in the end with your Lord being pleased,
With the way you lived your life so He eventually granted you Paradise which are only for those who truly believed;
None but those He knows truly deserve it will be made to have this action completed and achieved,
So contemplate, dear human, all are called to take account of the life that you are living, do not be of those who were deceived!

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

Infertility

Infertility

Allaah, the Creator of the Heavens and the Earth has spoken about the topic of fertility,
He mentioned that He is the One that chooses if the choice of fertility can ever be a possibility;
Or if the one that gets pregnant will actually carry out the term of a potential boy or girl in its entirety,
Once again Islaam brings wisdom of this particular situation, which can be found in surah 42 verses 49 and 50 for clarity.

So the body of a person is one by which much gain can be achieved,
And by that I mean the things that Allaah permits us to use it for, once you are clear what was sent and of it you believe;
I am not speaking about abortions that were carried out after casual play and enjoyment brought about a child that was conceived,
But using this vessel that was given to you by the One Who created it Who one day may show you in a book that'll mention the open and as well as the concealed.

Many women would literally die just to have one child naturally, one that can come from their eggs,
And they are appalled at the callous way many women are, who frivolously throw away fetuses, after they willingly opened up their legs;
Some may be upset at these words because it hits home too close, since they aborted the results of what happiness they enjoyed in their beds,
And unfortunately, others won't care because they take the morning after pill, or can care less because permission to go to a clinic was given to them by the Feds.

Man can never give you permission to do what God has not allowed,
Take a look at these people who change Allaah's creation or they marry the same sex laughing with joy today aloud,
You were created to worship your Lord, and in that you find obedience to Him, the Most High, and we should not be so proud,
In disobeying Him ever, because children is a direct result of a man and a woman in a union of marriage, and not any other way, which is crazy, wow.

Not rape and not things that are out of a female's control I speak,
It's the other speeches that is given, that in reality is weak;
Infertility is a real thing that many are afflicted with, so you can check the Internet that is replete,
With a plethora of information about PCOS and other conditions that people stumble upon when it is a child initially that they seek.

So just like we are mindful of the less fortunate if food is thrown away,
Know that we are too careless with our sperm and eggs during the night or day;
Consider that it is not you who chooses to have kids later rather than now, it is a gift from your Lord, no matter what you may say,
So worry about the next time you choose to have sex, that it is an act of worship towards your Lord Who created each of you and may reward you now or it may be delayed.

How Perfect my Lord is, Who created all of us,
It is not just women who are afflicted, but us men may have our faith tested, as such;
We are patient nevertheless, and we love our Lord very much,
Because the goal is to worship Him, whether we are free and allowed to have many kids or it seems as though we're in a handcuff!

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

No he didn’t

No he didn't

Oh you side chick from back in the days,
Clearly when you come into Islaam, you seem to switch roles like lead actors in Broadway plays;
Your thoughts are disturbing to me, because it had made many amazed,
To see that some people were content to being the lady on the side with no rights, but can be certain polygyny is only for the misled, like a rat in a maze.

How can you decide to be with a man who already have a woman?
You sneak around with him knowing that he can't be yours because he's already taken;
But then you come to Islaam where every wife that a Muslim has, actually have rights that by Allaah was definitely given,
But you feel like you're above this, so you act like you're better than the wives of the Prophet, who were better than any other woman.

Now some say that the husband needs the first wife's approval,
And others say that for him to think about doing it to his wife is inhumane and cruel;
But nothing supports her feelings but the whispers of the Shaytaan, which makes this point very crucial,
To the Muslim Ummah as a whole, because this part of the Sunnah is being looked at as archaic and unusual.

Let's say what Allaah and His Prophet said about this here thing,
And let's see if we implement it correctly, what kind of benefit to the society that it may bring;
Presidents wouldn't have to sneak out and show their country despicable acts that really stings,
And the common folks wouldn't see sneaking around appealing.

This affair is as old as the profession of the lady of the night,
The prostitute that men seem to rush towards, whether single or without a wife in sight;
There have always been a need or want from men to go sneak out and see another, not at all doing it out of spite,
But the Creator in 3:14 of His book has mentioned what he has beautified for men, so 4:3 of the same book shows how taking on another wife is his God-given right.

Asadullah Abu Muwahhid At-Tarinidad

Women covering their faces in the salaah done in public


☄ Woman covering face in salaah while in public
Question 437
A brother’s wife asks him evidence for covering face in salah while in public. He gave her the below hadith of Ayisha radhiyallahu anha as proof but she says this hadith cannot be taken as a proof since this be a ruling specific to the wives of the prophet (sallaahu alayhiwas salem). How should he respond to her ?
Aa’ishah (radyAllaahu anhaa) said:”Male riders would pass by us while we (wives) were in the state of ihraam with the Messenger of Allaah (sallaahu alayhiwas salem). When they would approach us, (each) one of uswould let her jilbaab fall down from (the top of) her head overher face. And when they had passed on, we would uncover our faces”
(Reported by Ahmad, Abu Dawood and ibn Maajah)
Answer :
The Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta’ was asked :
When it is time of Salah (Prayer) and I am in the presence of non-Mahrams (not a spouse or unmarriageable relatives), I keep my face veiled and keep wearing the gloves and socks during Salah and when I prostrate I keep my face veil down; because raising the veil causes me to make many moves in Salah and I keep wearing the gloves and socks. Is my Sujud (prostration) in this description valid?
Answer : What you do in your Salah in the presence of non-Mahrams, such as your covering your face and hands even in the Sujud (prostration) pose, is obligatory for you; because it is not permissible for a woman to uncover any part of her body in front of non-Mahrams, neither in Salah nor otherwise.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.
Source : http://www.alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaDetails.aspx?languagename=en&View=Page&PageID=12444&PageNo=1&BookID=7#P251
In other place, they have mentioned :
All a woman’s body is considered `Awrah (parts of the body that must be covered in public), except for her face during Salah, if she is not seen by non-Mahrams (not a spouse or permanently unmarriageable relatives). Otherwise she has to cover her face as well. This is according to the authentically reported Hadith from the Prophet (peace be upon him) that he said: ‘A woman is `Awrah (i.e. her entire body must be covered). (Related by Al-Tirmidhy)’
Source : http://www.alifta.net/Fatawa/FatawaDetails.aspx?languagename=en&View=Page&PageID=12441&PageNo=1&BookID=7
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Polygyny Matters

Polygyny Matters
Indeed to some, only polygyny matters,

While others may say that only monogamy matters;

It doesn’t matter how many boyfriends she’s had in her life, cause only monogamy matters,

But this poem is solely about polygyny matters. 

“Does it really matter”, she says, “how many boyfriends I have had before I got married?”

“The real problem lies in muslim men having more than one wife, cause that’s plain greed, I must say, sadly”;

I mean, the emphasis isn’t really in being right for your husband so you can be happy,

Because so many men has experienced you before him unlawfully, that made your Creator angry. 

Today a woman can “deal” with a man having a lady in his life as well as her, and she’s called a side chic,

Other women actually look for a married man, whether he’s poor or rich;

The excuse is because they feel like he’s with a stable woman and he won’t be too clingy with them, which is sick,

But these same women take their shahadah, and form a new stance disliking polygyny, and defending monogamy real quick. 

A woman wants to know why does the men want another wife in the first place?

Didn’t Allaah say He created the desire for women in us, so pay attention if you’re awake;

The scholars say that the foundation of marriage as Allaah mentioned in Surah Nisaa is polygynous for any who’d like to debate,

And Allaah said the Prophet is the one with the best example to follow, and he also was in a polygynous marriage, at any rate. 

No, please, stop the foolishness, the first wife’s permission is not needed in order for him to take on another,

Allaah already gave him permission to do so if he meets a certain criteria;

Some sisters want to control the whole situation and interpret the Qur’aan, the Speech of Allaah,

Just ask the Ulemaa since you don’t know and play your position, sister. 

Oh, you thought I would let you slide, oh brother who’s lacking,

May Allaah forgive us for trying to take on another wife as we oppress ourselves and our sins are stacking;

Can’t afford the one you’re with, but it’s sit down after sit down as the Shaytaan is laughing,

Cause you’re jumping off a roof first without a parachute, then you want to figure out about your landing. 

Your criteria for marriage is not as strict as what you would want for your own daughter,

You want a potential brother to come correct, but your application of Islaam is softer;

Be careful who you bring into your home, so don’t forget salaatul istakhaarah,

And never lie or play games when you speak to these imaam or these sisters’ fathers. 

Polygyny is beautiful when it’s done correctly,

A chance to increase the muslim ummah, when you’re practicing Islaam strongly,

More chances for women young or old, with kids or without to get a husband who would stand up with them boldly,

So stop feeling like polygyny is the new form of sampling new women every so often my brother, as some brothers are doing “discreetly”. 
Asadullah Abu Muwahhid At-Tarinidadi

Sin

[Majmoo’ Al Fatawah 7/492] Someone said to his Shaykh :” Verily I sin”. He told him, “Repent (from the sin)”. He then said, “Then I return (to the sin)”. He then said, “(So) Repent (from the sin)”. Then he said, ” Then I return return (to the sin)”. He said (to him), “Repent (from the sin)”. He said, ” Until when(?)”. He said, “Until Shaytan is grieved (by you)”.
Translated by Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi
● [مجموع الفتاوى ٧/٤٩٢] َّ قَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ لِشَيْخِهِ : إنِّي أُذْنِبُ قَالَ : تُبْ قَالَ : ثُمَّ أَعُودُ ، قَالَ : تُبْ قَالَ : ثُمَّ أَعُودُ ، قَالَ : تُبْ قَالَ : إلَى مَتَى قَالَ : إلَى أَنْ تُحْزِنَ الشَّيْطَانَ!!!

What?

What?

What do you really want, when you have a woman in your corner that’s covering?

Outside? Well, you act like you can’t help yourself, cause all you do is perfect that reckless eyeballing. 

You claim you want to have better character in your home, but you’re really stalling, 

Because if your partner’s on point and reminds you of Allaah, then who’s left to answer the Shaytaan’ calling? 
Some of these brothers pick up a lot of weights and only care about reps and sets,

They spend a lot of time beautifying their bodies, but can’t take care of their wives by curling a wallet and paying the rent;

If they were track runners, they’d be sprinters, after a little while they’re spent,

Never able to stick it out for the longevity, only that he came and when there’s problems, he left.
Yeah, you like the way she looks and her body pleases you? 

From her beautiful hair and how them jeans are fitting, too? 

It’s easier to do sin than to do what your Lord calls you to do?

Be cautious of that day you may be questioned about things you did in the open as well as in secret, too. 
Personally, I think that the Muslim female has been given a bad rap, if you ask me, 

The one’s who are a single wife, or who may have one co-wife , or two or three;

Because the media paints her as this oppressed little girl who is the opposite of how a true woman aught to be, 

However she only follows the commands of the One True Creator, that’s where she gets this most hated Islaamic Personality.  
So what do you do when you have a choice to make? 

A candy wrapped in paper and clean, or the dirty one that fell on the floor, which one will you take? 

You can’t be mad at the names they call these females, like hoes, and easy because she’s promiscuous on the first date, 

Because these adjectives are already known, so to indulge in the actions themselves clearly shows that in their labelling she’s willing to partake.  
I promote marriage and I promote the Muslim woman, so I guess I promote marriage to one as well, 

So if you don’t have one then I guess you bumped your head in the process when you fell;

I am a big advocate when she wears that black, and I know you can clearly tell, 

Be true to your life in this deen of Islaam and choose the muslimah and avoid the one who ascribe herself like Jezzebel. 
Not to say that the disbelieving woman can’t be chaste, that is not what I’m saying, 

For the good character of which I speak about is in her heart and on her limbs that she’s displaying;

She’s called a disbeliever because she doesn’t believe in the Only King that is truly reigning, 

And if she doesn’t believe in Him for real, and you choose her, then who you’re really fooling? 
Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi 

Husband

Husband 
I heard you’re having issues finding a husband these days, yaa ukhti,

Of all the husbands you had, were any of them truly Salafi?

Did they display the righteous characteristics of Talha, Umar or Salman Al Farsi?

And were you diligent enough to make sure that their backgrounds were checked thoroughly?
Everyone gets thirsty from time to time, and these times are only for us to drink water,

Cause we might run to get married and end up single with a son or a daughter;

I can’t stress enough the importance of doing salaatul istakhaarah,

As well as looking at the signs if you should even marry this brother.  
Or have you penalized any future brother because of the wrongdoing of another?

 You still hold a grudge, like you want to put a knife to a jugular?

Upset cause you had wanted to really leave him, but he was way ahead of yuh?

Well those days are gone with better brothers that are ahead of yuh?
Ever thought to ask the One Who’s the Creator of the soul?

To provide you with one who fits the mold;

Or at least close to it, if I should be so bold,

That could be with you today as you’re young, and tomorrow when you get old.
I know, it’s sad when you think about it, how some of these brothers fit,

Into a relationship that’s not even legit;

With a female that’s religiously sick,

Him choosing her over you, you may not realize it, but to you it was a benefit. 
So don’t give up hope, because there are good muslims out there,

Not just about themselves, but about you they’ll also care;

Jannah would be his goal and his attire, all Islaamic wear,

He would have no love for this dunya, and entering the Hell Fire he’d truly fear.

Asadullah Abu Muwahhid At-Tarinidadi 

The Mahr

The Mahr

A quote once said, when nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap,

Indeed we, as Muslims, will sow that which we reap;

A prophetic Hadith speaks about making the marriage being something of ease that both parties can reach,

But brothers put dollar signs in their daughters’ eyes, so now the muslimah has turned into a parasite, a leech. 
Wow, have you heard the price for the dowry in some Muslim lands, yet alone the price of the Bayt?

Zina is slowly increasing, putting the Muslims in a lowly state;

The family doesn’t care, so the numbers continue to increase steadily, yet the population is poor looking at their own fate,

After spending all of that money to just get the girl, what can he afford to clothe their backs or what will go on a plate?
How does one propose he’ll pay for all of this, you ask, as we look at the facts?

Definitely another major sin is delved into, riba coming in at the head of the pack;

We’ll just take a loan out, as we get the apartment and furnish it, removing all light from our hearts till they turn black,

Only because following the sunnah to many today just seems plain whack?
I wish a sister would tell one of my sons to pay thousands of dollars to get her, then more thousands for the reception, so that he can maintain her for the rest of his life,

So he’s actually paying all this money, so that he can claim the title of her being his wife?

How stupid this sounds, ponder it for a moment as you section off the young thoughts from the ones that look ripe,

For inasmuch as you would want the glitter and glamour of the marriage date for the people, 

it’s only the husband and wife that would end up in sadness when they return to their Lord or pure delight.  
How do you assess that your body is worth hundreds if not thousands of dollars just to get a mate?

When we spend less time on the actual value of these men and women of late?

When the reality should be looked at in the life we are about to have with this person which may seal our fate?

But we want the big wedding, the big house, our Jannah on this earth at all cost, as we seal our fate. 
What about those who can’t afford the extravagant price?

But they are men of good character and men who’s religion are better than nice?

Or those women for that matter who have these exorbitant price, with no one to pay it, but their hormones and interest are enticed?

The call of zina seem more and more appealing, as the deen takes a back seat to ones desires, ones vice.  
So for those of us who intend on raising the price excessively for our daughters or womenfolk,

Know that the intent is for the coming of two Muslims for marriage, and not to brag to neighbors and gloat;

Some of us live in a society that the price that’s being quoted doesn’t make sense, so remember the beginning quote,

That when nikah becomes expensive, zina becomes cheap, so ponder upon what I wrote.   
It’s been said that the higher the price, the harder it will be for her to get a khul’ah,

But if it’s a deterrent for her not the leave the marriage, then more attention should be shown to your manhaj and aqeedah;

Definitely we know that while women wait for the right man to come by, the men are also looking for the right women to come along so each can have their own zawjah,

But which is more important, the act of finally getting married, or finding the right one who helps you get to Jannah?
Who chooses the price of a woman that in some countries some give it up for cheap?

Some give it up for some beer, or flowers or even rice on a plate alongside some meat;

But the fact of the matter is that men tend to be taken aback when all the Wali wants is the Qur’aan recited and implemented as the road to Jannah is what he actively seek,

Than the woman who quotes thousands to later end up being a woman who becomes a headache so all you want to do is take a Tylenol then lay down and sleep.  

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi

The Reality

The Reality
Excuse me for being frustrated that you don’t want to enter into Polygyny,

The fault lies with me, for those of us who have an intellect that works stealthily;

Not everyone is built for this type of lifestyle of a family,

Because very few of us even have their Iman challenged, which is plain reality. 
Clearly, we see the whole world watch the Olympics, where only a few dare to compete,

Many of us want to go try out, but our brains and bodies are not aligned for this feat;

A whole stadium gets packed where players do their thing, as we watch from our seats,

Everyone is built for their specialty, like lions at the point when its jaws are around a kill, it’s done with preciseness and it’s neat. 
I say this to say, that the reality of the affair is that many women are not even built for this life,

So some men should only stay with his one wife;

Imagine the ones who come in and try to destroy what you’ve built like a cold butter and a hot knife,

Don’t always feel like it’s the man who’s unjust or that he’s incompetent or less than nice.  
A quote said it best, that everyone wants to be a beast, until it’s time to do what real beats do,

Many of us want to emulate Prophet Muhammad, salallaahu alayhi wa sallam, but on our best days in our marriages, we couldn’t even fill his shoes;

I’m saying this for clarity, not to get anyone confused,

That this institution is for those who want to know, as well as implement the smallest to the biggest of its rules.  
A true example of how to implement Islaam is to look at the life of our beloved Prophet,

But we choose to look at the Islaam being propagated today by those who only know Islaam from the phones in their pockets;

Failed marriages by brothers who were only looking to claim the title of a man with more than one wife, but can’t hang when things get drastic,

No wonder sisters get amnesia, schizophrenia or disoriented when someone brings up this topic. 
A bad example shown is just that in my book,

But there are many positive examples for those that want to go have a look;

Islaam is shown in a way that is opposite to what we know to be true, be careful what is seen on tv or in books with what was put,

Truth is not known by men, but men are known by the truth, so not only should we be weary of what’s put in the pot, but also look at the cook. 
Look at these women who are involved in polygyny and they’re handling it,

No, it’s not easy, not a day in the park to grab up a chair to have a sit;

It’s a thing to have your sleeves rolled up all the way to your armpits,

Some days are smooth and clear, while others are filled with static. 
This is for none but the patient and righteous and successful,

Only Allaah knows who were actually mindful;

If His limits were adhered to or the perpetrators were sinful ,

But the one who He said is the best of example to follow, had wives who were none other than dutiful. 

Abu Muwahhid Asadullah At-Tarinidadi